Nov 29, Christian Living The importance of physical attraction is related to the importance of the body itself. Perhaps this means that singles should be willing to direct their affections toward potential spouses they may not initially. Aug 4, As a Christian woman, it's hard to admit that physical attraction is one 3 Things to Consider When Dating a Divorced Christian (Urban Faith). Aug 11, Yet, I am regularly asked if it is important for a Christian man or woman to be physically attracted to the person they are dating. As I've asked.
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Let me put it this way: Those traits will contribute to your happiness in marriage. On one hand you could have a spouse who was knock-out gorgeous, but critical and quick to argue or nitpick about anything.
On the other hand you could have a spouse who was always kind and quick to forgive, but was just so-so physically. See also Proverbs While beauty is a depreciating asset, most other positive traits—wisdom, patience, commitment, good communication skills, etc. They make for a better investment, so to speak. It makes logical sense: Now, I know some of you are about to get defensive, or maybe even claim that I have no credibility on this subject because my wife is hot. And I definitely think she is.
It is important that you are attracted to your spouse. The most physically beautiful of women will appear unattractive to a Christian man if her beauty is coupled with immoral character see Prov Specifically, we are told and shown over and over that true physical beauty is found primarily in a particular body shape or hair color or facial structure.
This mindset is devastating to our relationships and our hope for marriage because physical beauty must diminish over time.
When we are walking in humility and pursuing the right things, it is possible to be physically attracted to many different kinds of women, not merely those who appear on the magazine covers. The ease of access to pornography has allowed men to store up naked or scantily dressed—often air-brushed and utterly unrealistic—images of what he perceives to be the perfect woman.
But the more a man immerses himself in fantasy the less able he will be to appreciate reality, to the peril of his hopes for marriage. Why are men, more and more, losing their taste for real physical beauty? Because they are, more and more, drinking from the poisoned well of pornography.
It is also possible that a man finds that he is not physically attracted to his girlfriend because he is, generally speaking, attracted to other men. Should we counsel a Christian man in such a scenario to plod ahead in his relationship and ignore his desires?
Again, we should recognize that physical attraction is important and that it is possible for a man wrestling with same-sex attraction to grow in his attraction for the woman he is dating. He should be encouraged by stories of men for whom this has been the case. The reasons it may be lacking in some women can be similar to the reasons it is lacking in men: But women must also be aware of their design in relation to men.
God has created the man to be the pursuer and the one who woos and wins his wife. As a man pursues a woman, she often naturally grows more and more physically attracted to him as she is able to perceive his godly character and intentional leadership.
Practically, ladies, this means that you should be willing to give a worthy guy a chance to win your affection. If, after a reasonable amount of time you are still bereft of any desire or attraction, you can end the relationship.
You are not obligated by the mere pursuit to marry any particular man. But this question of physical attraction also naturally leads to the question of how a Christian should care for his or her physical appearance.
It seems reasonable to say that a Christian should neither neglect his or her physical appearance nor worship it. It is not a mark of holiness to allow your physical appearance to deteriorate, nor is it ultra-spiritual to purposefully neglect your clothing or hygiene. What, then, should mark our physical appearance?
But I will attempt an answer that, I trust, makes reasonable use of what Scripture does say. Intentionality in How We Dress. This intentionality will be naturally expressed in how we dress. A lack of intentionality in life is a mark of youth and immaturity, and a lack of intentionality in how we adorn ourselves may be an overflow of our life as a whole.
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This intentionality will be naturally expressed in how we dress. The reasons it may be lacking in some women can be similar to the reasons it is lacking in men: This is information she does not need to know. As a man pursues a woman, she often naturally grows more and more physically attracted to him as she is able to perceive his godly character and intentional leadership.
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